6 Reasons You Probably Hate Dating

1. You put boyfriend expectations on someone you’re just dating. He’s not your boyfriend so don’t place expectations on him that are merely boyfriend exclusive. Meeting his parents, giving you a house key and looking for getaways on Groupon is not a part of the initial dating process. It’s easy to get wrapped up in your thoughts […]


5 Things a Man Does When He Likes You

1. He’ll keep his word. As life occurs, so does overbooking, which means definitive plans will sometimes be cancelled. Understandable. However, if he is constantly rescheduling or canceling, his priorities are somewhere other than getting to know you.   2. He’ll make plans in advance and won’t make every date tentative and/or last minute. Spontaneity is cool, but not […]


Top 4 Dating Mistakes

4. Ms. Anti-Commitment You’re falling for him more quickly than you planned. The emotional connection that the two of you share goes far beyond the physical attraction. Although not anticipated, the two of you consider taking the non-exclusive dating relationship to a mutually exclusive level. He’s all in, but you’re not. You’re not exactly sure […]

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Hall Pass

Originally posted on COMMONTRUCE:
After years of living in the Washington, D.C. metropolitan area, I’ve learned that it’s truly the mecca of single, attractive and progressive-minded women of color. If you take a survey, there is clearly a noticeable difference in the number of single, educated women in comparison to single, educated men. There are…

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No Sex

Originally posted on COMMONTRUCE:
As dinner concludes, I sit back in full disbelief of the woman that “Keisha” presents herself to be. Even though this is our fourth date, I truly feel as though our relationship is heading in the right direction. After finishing off my glass of wine, I get up to assist her in…


Part I: Men and the 8 Dating Categories

1. Mr. Dater This is the guy who you know is only good for going out on dates. He’s far from your type and only has 3 out of 20 qualities on “The List”, but there‘s something about him that keeps you interested. Usually, it’s a quality that would be considered shallow by most (i.e. He […]


Part II: Men and the 8 Dating Categories

( Read Part One Here! ) 5. Mr. Bad Boy This is a tough category for me to delve into because I have not had the experience of dating a bad boy since my freshman year of high school (Sorry, mom). Mr. Bad Boy doesn’t necessarily have an episode on The First 48 nor has he been […]

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Ask Muffie: Should We Make it Official?

“Hi Muffie!! I recently rekindled things with a guy I initially met in 2009. When I met him he had zero children. Now he has 1 and one on the way by 2 different women. Every time I think I’ve shaken him somehow we end up speaking and making out again. Whenever we are together […]


From the Archives: Oh, You’re Dating Him too?

Having strong feelings, spending a considerable amount of time together, having sex, meeting the parents, etc. are not indicative of exclusivity. You go to the movies, meet for happy hour and have even gone on a few quick weekend trips. It’s the perfect relationship until you find out he is also having that type of […]

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Top 5 Reasons You’re not Dating

1. Movie Nights If your weekends consist of NETFLIX rental every Friday night, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re not dating. Don’t get me wrong, having a movie night every now and then is cool, but not every weekend. I’m not sure about you, but I’m definitely worthy enough to be taken […]

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Are you Settling?

Often times we are quick to label ourselves as “settling” if we renege on one or two expectations for a mate; but in all actuality, the determination of settling should not be dependent upon one or two wants that aren’t being met. Instead, settling should be based on specific needs that aren’t being met. Knowing […]