PlentyOfFish, OKCupid and Match, are just a few online dating options for singles looking for love. The taboo associated with online dating is slowly starting to dissipate due to the technological advances in today’s society. In other words, almost everyone has a Facebook account and a SMART phone unless they’re living under a rock and/or over the age of 85. As a result, I decided to give formalized online dating a try. Here’s my story:
Once upon a time a little brown girl named–just kidding. I’ve always wanted to start a blog using that phrase. Anywho, I got in a phase (which only lasted three weeks) where I wanted a relationship and wanted it quickly. I wanted something that was quick and easy; something comparable to online shopping. After I got over my fear that someone I knew was going to find me on a dating site “looking for love”, I did it. I joined.
With a couple clicks of my mouse, online dating literally allowed me to pick out a mate without being too overtly shallow–I will admit that the height requirement had to be over 6 feet. Don’t judge. What’s an Amazon goddess to do? I’m 6’1 in heels. Again, I digress (blame it on my
self-diagnosed ADD short attention span). Anyway, after my specifications for my man were done, I waited for my plethora of men to show up in my search (I just knew there were going to be hundreds). And there they were…my matches-all two of them. Wait a second. I must have mistakenly put over 7 feet instead of 6 feet tall. There had to be more men to choose from. I didn’t think finding a man who was over 6 feet with no kids was that hard to find. For obvious reasons, I was immediately discouraged and decided to broaden my horizons to singles outside of my city and state (for the sake of experiment) and lowered my height requirement by a few inches. As a result, I ended up with a few more matches.
After my search expansion, a few men emailed me using terrible cyber game and cliché greetings like, “Hello, what brings you to this dating site?”, “I enjoyed your profile and would love to get to know you.” Yadda, yadda, yadda. I entertained the emails and started cyber chatting with a few “matches” from the site. Very few of them seemed to have the “it” factor of cyber personalities, but there was a lad in particular who really made me LOL (not the cliché LOL used to fill awkward “cyber silence”), he laughed at my
corny witty cyber jokes and never started an email with, “Wat up, ma?” Eventually, we exchanged digits and partook in our first convo. It took me less than two minutes to realize that I was talking to a guy who had the personality of Mr. Dry Eyes. How could someone with so much personality online be comparable to the sex-ed Miracle of Life video every student had to watch if they went to a public middle school in the nineties? Then I got to thinking, if I had to choose an online site to find a mate, I would choose Facebook for two very specific reasons:
1. The Mutual Friend Factor:
Unlike the formalized dating sites I have tried, Facebook has a feature that could be advantageous when deciding to make the first move: The Mutual Friend Factor. Before emails ever got too in depth between us, I would always refer to our mutual friend list and get the dibs from a couple of friends. This was very helpful in preventing another “Mr. Dry Eyes” situation (great personality online, but no personality in person). Even if I didn’t know any of our mutual friends personally, it still would give me more satisfaction than a totally random guy from
Match a formalized dating website hitting me up.
2. Less Pressure:
I’ve never been receptive to guys who approach me with lines. I think I’ve heard everything from, “Lemme get a sip of that martini,” to more cliché lines like, “Do you gotta man; do you want one?” Although not as crass and overt, the men (with an exception of the aforementioned) who approached me on the dating sites seemed to have that same direct and overly forward approach. On Facebook however, convo seemed more natural with less pressure to meet. Plus, there were no awkward getting-to-know-you questions.
What are your thoughts on dating people from Facebook? Match? Yay or nay?
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