A Male’s Perspective: She Can’t be Trusted (Comedy)

 A Male Perspective: Some Women Can’t be Trusted

Posted by: @SchoolIs4Suckas

Edited by: Muffie Bradshaw

I think Sonny said it best in A Bronx Tale: “Listen to me kid. If she doesn’t reach over and lift up that button so you can get in, that means she’s a selfish broad and all you’re seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and dump her fast.”  Sonny was right because we have all been on a date and/or relationship and noticed a red-flag  that has been a bit unsettling. I’m sure there has been a moment where you question a person’s integrity, beliefs and/or home training. As a result, I decided to share several of my personal experiences with women who have unequivocally been placed in the #CantBeTrusted file. Here’s my experience:

#1-I recently took a date to a place we are all familiar with, Benihana. We sat down at our table with six other people whom we did not know. Everyone orders and the waiter is ready to take ours. Within five seconds, my date proudly tells the waiter she wanted “chicken, shrimp AND lobster with fried rice”. I put my head down…how dare she…We were on a first date and she goes for the “trifecta” of all seafood platters?!  One meat? Fine.  Two meats? Good–you may be just a bit hungry. Three meats?  Now you’re taking advantage and just plain greedy.

Her over-the-top order lead me to believe that she was a female who probably doesn’t change her bed sheets but once a month. Right then, I knew it was over and it was safe to say that she #cantbetrusted.

#2-I went out to a nice spot for a lunch date. There were only two people in the spot and she gets a call she has to take. I get hit with the, “Let me take this in the restroom. I’ll be back”. After a double of Absolute and twelve minutes later–yes, I was counting– she returned like nothing happened. Being the gentleman I am, I continued with the date but I haven’t seen her since.

Fellas, if she has her phone facedown on the table the entire night,  that phone call she had to take in the bathroom probably wasn’t her “sister”. Therefore, she #cantbetrusted.

#3-I feel that a man should pay when dating, courting or getting to know a woman. I’m a teacher so my bread is only so long. It’s not that I want her to pay, but after two or three spots in one night, a simple, “Let me leave the tip,” goes a long way.

Fellas, if you pay for dinner and drinks and she doesn’t offer to “leave the tip” she will finish off the last of your Simply Lemonade and leave the container in the refrigerator. Therefore, she #cantbetrusted.

#4-When Fifty Shades of Grey came out you would have thought that someone re-wrote a couple of chapters in the bible! Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with leisure reading, but the woman I was dating at the time read the book and talked only about the book for weeks because it was the trendy thing to do. Enough is enough. I don’t think she’s read a book since.

If the only book she has read in the past year is Fifty Shades of Grey she probably posts 10+ pictures on Instagram for Throwback Thursday. Therefore, she #cantbetrusted.

#5-Ladies, don’t worry. I didn’t forget about you.  A good friend of mine dated a guy who would watch the NBA playoffs at her house. She would drink a nicely “cocktailed” vodka or whiskey while he would sip on a Seagrams wine cooler. She asked me if that was normal. I let her know that it was a violation of man law #154 which states that: No man should sip on a weaker drink than his woman while together…

If your man is watching the game sipping on a Lime-a-Rita or a Seagrams wine cooler he can’t properly teach your son how to shoot a basketball, throw a football, or change a tire.  Therefore, that man #cantbetrusted.

On a more serious note, I started writing about these #cantbetrused scenarios after getting back on the dating scene following the end of a long relationship. I went through a phase where I lost faith and didn’t trust women.  At that time Jay-Z spoke to how I felt when he said: “The anger and sorrow mixed up leads to mistrust and it get(s) tough to ever love again…”  We have all encountered people who #cantbetrusted, but don’t let a bad experience stop you from getting to the point where you are able to love without limits because there are many women and men out there who #canbetrusted.  ~@schoolis4suckas

About Muffie Bradshaw, Dating Coach

Muffie Bradshaw is an award-winning relationship blogger and dating coach who has been seen on The Steve Harvey Show. Other works include online magazines including, but not limited to, singleblackmale.org and womensforum.com. With many relationship experiences, including breakups, dating successes and disasters, Muffie knows firsthand the mistakes women should avoid when going through the ups and downs of dating. Through her writing and coaching services, Muffie specializes in helping women reach a higher level of understanding regarding their dating lives through self-assuring decision making techniques, self-reflection and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) inspired methods.

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