Part I: Men and the 8 Dating Categories

1. Mr. Dater

This is the guy who you know is only good for going out on dates. He’s far from your type and only has 3 out of 20 qualities on “The List”, but there‘s something about him that keeps you interested. Usually, it’s a quality that would be considered shallow by most (i.e. He looks just like , he makes a lot of money, etc.). There’s a slim chance that the two of you could have a serious long-lasting relationship because he’s significantly under-qualified. The men I dated who have fallen into this category were generally good guys, but I knew it would never go further than an occasional date because of the pretentious nature in which the dating relationship started. Besides, it’s always a terrible idea to force a relationship based on trivial qualities.   couple34i

Alternatively, Mr. Dater could be the guy who‘s a good catch, but not ready to settle down. He’s the one who has a very demanding career or the one who simply enjoys dating and has no intent on changing his lifestyle anytime soon. I enjoy dating men who fall into this category because I’m not fully ready to settle down and there’s no pressure to progress the dating relationship. It works for both of us.


2. Mr. Maybe

Most of the men you date start out as Mr. Maybe. Mr. Maybe is the guy who may have some quirks. In particular, he reminds you of Tommy from Martin. He swears that he has a job, but he always seems to be available ANYTIME of the day and is constantly talking about how “The Man” is trying to take him down. But, oddly enough, he has captivated your interest. One thing that I despise about dating Mr. Maybe is that most times it results in continuing a dating relationship knowing there’s no progression. Once the relationship ends I always feel a sense of disappointment because I settled for what was there and blatantly ignored the red flags. Contrarily, Mr. Maybe could be the chivalrous guy who holds doors and doesn’t judge you when you tell him about your Spanx® story that took place in the club bathroom. Although these things add checks to “The List”, you realize that the relationship is still new so you have more investigation to do since his Facebook page wasn’t enough you want to be certain that he’s someone worth seriously dating.


3. Mr. Secret

Most people have dated at least one guy they’ve never told anyone about. This may be due to his lackluster personality, his Zooey-Deschanel-Puts-On-a-Sad-Frown-In-New-Girl-Reaction-Gifinability to hold an intelligent conversation, his rhinestone encrusted gold tooth, etc. What ever the case may be, he was a secret for a reason. When you’re dating someone in this category, there’s a good chance that it won’t go any further than a few dates because of the lack of physical attraction, his constant use of the “word” conversate , yadda, yadda, yadda. Did I say lack of physical attraction? I’ve only dated one guy who fell into this category. He didn’t have manners and had this thing for women’s elbows was socially awkward, but due to his extraordinary persistence, I finally agreed to go on one date–Okay I lied; it was three. I’m sure some would ask why waste time going on multiple dates with someone who doesn’t spark my interest. In my case, I was in a short-lived dating drought while simultaneously wearing my TTBN (Trying-to-be-Nice) goggles.


4. Mr. Prince

He’s perfect. He’s so perfect that you’re hesitant to fall completely head-over-heels for this guy in fear of him being too good to be true, but you go through with it and you’re happy you did. Your conversations are fluid and he thinks your Dave Chappelle impersonations are hilarious. He meets most of the criteria on “The List” and does everything right. Mr. Prince could potentially become The One if things continuously progress in the right direction; but for now you’re just enjoying being in love.




What type of guy do you usually end up dating?

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About Muffie Bradshaw, Coach

Muffie Bradshaw is an award-winning relationship blogger and coach who has been seen on The Steve Harvey Show. Other works include online magazines including, but not limited to, and With many relationship experiences, including breakups, dating successes and disasters, Muffie knows firsthand the mistakes women should avoid when going through the ups and downs of dating. Through her writing and coaching services, Muffie specializes in helping women reach a higher level of understanding regarding their dating lives through self-assuring decision making techniques, self-reflection and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) inspired methods.

12 Responses

  1. CJP

    I have been wating for you to post. I love this and love your style of writing! It’s never boring and very entertaining. I cant wait for part 2. I defnitely end up dating Mr. Dater most of the time.

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