7. You get too comfortable.

You’re set in your ways and you refuse to change your unhealthy dating patterns from your failed dating routines. This is a prime example of being too comfortable with your fruitless dating habits. Being too comfortable can prevent you from meeting the right person. Step outside of your comfort zone and create a SoulSwipe account do something differently. Find solace in being uncomfortable and try something new.

6. You’re too picky.

Pickiness only becomes a problem when you’re passing on  a great man because he’s an half an inch shorter than your ideal height of a trivial quality. In order to rid yourself of this self-sabotaging behavior, ease up on your extreme pickiness and note that being too picky often serves as a measure of avoidance. Are you trying to avoid getting hurt? Are you secretly avoiding a long-term commitment? More times than not, pickiness is a subcategory of another problem that you haven’t effectively resolved.

5. You have feelings of unworthiness.

It’s easy to be hard on yourself and feel as though you’re undeserving of a meaningful relationship due to past relationship trauma and mistakes you’ve made, but it’s important to realize that despite your shortcomings, you’re still deserving. Focusing towards the future instead of constantly beating yourself up about your past dating and relationship failures will help you manifest new goals and visions for the things you want to get right for your next relationship.

4. You don’t self-reflect.

Self-reflection is paramount when going through the ebbs and flows of dating.  Solely placing blame on the guys who considered meeting you in the parking lot of Walgreen’s a date on the people you’ve dated and only finding fault in the things they’ve done is directly correlated to a lack of effective and meaningful self-reflection. Lack of self-reflection leads to habitual unhealthy dating patterns. When you are aware of the things in which you should improve upon and don’t work on them, you will continue to self-sabotage. Become aware of the parts of yourself that need improvement and make it a point to work on them.

3. You don’t work on your emotional maturity.

Emotional maturity is often coupled with resiliency. It shouldn’t involve letting your emotions sabotage your dating life. In order to become more emotionally mature, you must consistently and effectively manage your emotions despite your past dating experiences. In other words, one or two bad dates from Farmer’s Only shouldn’t be so emotionally detrimental that it keeps you from what you deserve.  Instead, keep your emotions regulated by focusing on the ultimate goals you want for your dating life while keeping in mind that emotional maturity is progressive and intentional.

2. You harbor on failed relationships.

If you’re old enough and have dated long enough, you have been in failed– and sometimes even traumatizing–relationships. However, harboring on past relationships may prohibit the right person from coming into your life. Instead of fixating on the bad relationships you’ve been through, focus on the things learned from those hurtful relationships and apply the lessons learned to your next relationship. Harboring on failed relationships while simultaneously refusing to move forward will only stifle your growth. Learn from the hurt of your past relationships and use them for a helping mechanism for your next one.

1. You constantly talk yourself out of giving good guys a chance.

The most common way to self-sabotage your dating life is refusing to give a good man a chance. Although being physically attracted to the person you’re dating is important, physical attraction isn’t always instantaneous. Sometimes attraction grows once you get to know a person’s intrinsic qualities. Don’t pass up a good guy because the spark isn’t there immediately.  Have an open-mind and give him a chance and see what feelings may evolve. You may be pleasantly surprised.

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